What (not) to wear.

I am very excited! I am going to embark upon a uber controversial topic. If people view my blog and have the patience to read through my articles, and have that teensy extended bit of patience to leave a comment, then I am very excited to see what they have to say.

So lets get started.. My blog title reads what (not) to wear.. and the protagonist of our discussion is the "mangal sutra" or "thaali" as they call it in some cultures.
The wikipedia blurb reads....
"A Mangalsutra (mangala sutra, mangalasutra or thali) is a symbol of Hindu and Syrian Christian marriage union in India. It is a sacred thread of love and goodwill worn by women as a symbol of their marriage. Every Indian woman considers the mangalsutra the most revered token of love and respect offered to her during the marriage ceremony" According to Hindu cultural ethos, mangalsutra symbolizes the inseparable bond between a husband and a wife.During the wedding ceremony, the bridegroom ties the mangalsutra to the neck of the bride uttering- “May you live long by wearing this sacred Mangalsutra, the reason of my life”. Married women are entitled to wear Mangalsutra throughout their life as it is believed that the practice enhances the well being of her husband and family. It is also considered that the mangalsutra protects the marriage from any evil. A Hindu marriage is incomplete without the mangalsutra. Three knots symbolize three different aspects of a married woman- the first knot represents her obedience to the husband, the second to parents and the third represents her respect for God".

Sounds divine even reading through it right? I respect hindu mythology to a very great extent. A lot of things that were done in the ancient past - come to think of it has some scientific explanation to it. When this combination exists, I am floored! really.

According to ancient history, wearing the mangal sutra is supposed to have a strong significance.. as you read in the blurb above. Fast forward >> in todays day and age..do people still hold regard for things like this? Have things like comfort, style, what others might think, looks taken precedence over the ancient beliefs and myths of some sort?
How many out there wear their thaali on a daily basis? Is it ok not to wear it? Is it really true that by not wearing it, we are falling easy prey to evil and disrespecting our culture?
There have been many talk shows (mostly in the southern part of the world and asian countries) that have been discussed this topic.

My take on this..Cat on the wall.. I really don't know. I no longer wear mine..(oops!!) and thats mainly because

- its too heavy
- its too bling ( I hate gold unless it has some emerald and ruby to it - yeah expensive taste)
- it makes this clinky sound and causes an allergy near my chest..(sux)
- It doesnt go with all types of clothes..
- It attracts many unwanted questions from strangers which you may be obliged to answer
- Its too bling and heavy - ohh I have mentioned that

So there! thats why I dont wear it... I dont know if I am doing anything wrong by not wearing it.
Ofcourse when I visit a temple, or go to any traditional gathering that is bound to have nosey gossipers, that blingy thing will be hanging around my neck...

I personally believe that the good will and nice thoughts for your husband's well being should exist in your heart and you should pray for it from deep within and sincerely want it. And most importantly - practice it! You can still wear your thaali, act all pious and then go off on a tangent! How many such stories have we heard.
I believe that the power of prayer and sincerity in action can make many wishes and desires come true.
I guess this is one of the biggest reasons that I consider it ok to not wear it and not feel gulity about it.
I know I may be attracting a lot of controversy and people judging me. I may not make everyone happy.. but at the end of the day, I am happy and at peace with my self and my belief. I dont want to do something because it has to be done ( unless I am literally forced to and if the life of a loved one depended on it).

- G

Poles Apart??!!

The headline reminds me only of one person and I would really like to dedicate this blog to her... Yeah my sister... Starting from our outlook on life.. till about our tastes in music to colours to the type of food...we are p-o-l-e-s a-p-a-r-t.
All said and done, despite all this, you go back to basics and connect with some people without any reason.. and not only cuz you are related..its beyond all this.. Some background to my startling statement made..
We went to the same school.. and as usual me the brave one loved going to school..My sis was so scared that she used to sit come and sit with me in my class.
I still so vividly remember that day..
Even today when I pick out a dress and I oh so excitedly come home and show it to her... She will give out those cute dimple smile and say." its so you"..
Now I dont know if thats an insult..or a compliment. She says its the latter..and it better be that way.
Even our opinions and outlook on things differ... While its good to have a difference, not this much I used to thinnk....
..Anyways while the differences continue on one end.. there are two things that we still share the same interest for...
1.....giggle and crack up.. reasons??!! most of the times.. I make fun or rather imitate people and she cracks up...
Thats one of the times we genuinely LOL.. Amma thinks its sidey..she says.. that we need to enjoy "constructive jokes".. or humour but we beg to differ.. Till about 3:00 Am somedays we crack up...
2...The other common passion is eating good.. food.. well there too.. I cook and she gobbles..We mostly do this at like 2:00 AM.. thats the thrill!!

To be honest..we arent the best of friends.. as in we dont a deep personal link..( by that I am trying to say that we dont tell each other our personal stuff)..wierd you may think..but it works for us this way...
We arent similar..on any ground..To me, dressed up in a long layered skirt and a peasant blouse will be a stunner combo.. to her.. it will be a short skirt and a spagetti...lol... so its like that... and am sure you guys would have got the point..
but all said and done.. we still get back to one another at the end of the day, month, year..decade..and pick up from where we left.. I dont think you get to do this with many people..She being there in my life has never made me yearn for girl company.. even after my friends relocated to other cities, I kinda dint feel lost cuz she was there to cover...and that too despite all the differences...
I am glad she is my sister..for many reasons.. but the most important one...
" She is my best fall back pillow.. .. and my cushion ( both metaphorically and otherwise..lol) & way different from me..:)